HOW TO: Bounce back after a rough week

Teaching is really, really hard. When you take your college classes and visit classrooms for observations, you really don’t appreciate how difficult it really is. Then you start your teaching career and assume the responsibility of applying all of your knowledge from college as well as worrying about how to make the lives of students better while trying teach them your content. Reality sets in and you realize how hard it is to balance everything that comes with your job. 

Every teacher is going to have a rough week. Some years, you may have more rough weeks than easy ones. I am personally coming off one of those rough weeks. I have obsessed over the events and struggled with it to the point where I didn’t want to see my students. How do we come back from those types of weeks and keep our love for teaching and students? I can’t speak for everyone, but these are the things that I need to do when I have a week like this past one.

1. Cry. I am not going to lie, crying helps me release my anger, frustration, and sometimes hurt. I try not to do it in front of my students, but there have been times where my students have seen me emotional about their behavior or interactions that occurred. I think that it can be good for students to see that we have serious emotions about them and that they affect us. I know that many of the things students do in the classroom are not personal and typically have nothing to do with us, but they also tend to think that their actions do not impact us either. 
   1. A couple of years ago in my advisory class, I had a student that struggled in school. He was always in trouble and I was one of the few people that he respected and would work with. There was a time though when he started to abuse that relationship and began lying to me about what was going on with his classes. I was so frustrated with him and his behavior to the point of tears and I finally let him see that emotion and frustration. That to him was a wake up call that his behavior mattered to me and that the relationship worked two ways. 
2. Check out from school. No matter how much work I need to do when I have a bad week, I try to take time to completely check out from school when I get home. I do something with my family or friends and try to spend some time by myself. This week my choice was to have a family movie night in bed and take a long bath watching old Will and Grace episodes. It was what I needed to keep myself from obsessing and to recharge my batteries. I think we all need something outside of work to be passionate about or love to do. This helps us fight burnout and gives us a release from our work stress. We all need to find things to do outside of the classroom. It can be exercise, reading, a hobby, a sport. Really anything that takes us out of the teacher role and into just be a person. Along with this take time to be social. Try to go out with your significant other, friends, or both and connect with people outside of school. 
3. Talk it out. One of the most essential tools in your teaching toolbox is a group of fellow teacher-friends that you can talk to about what is going on without judgement. You need a group that supports you and helps you see the successes when you only see failure, that help you problem-solve and understand you as a person and teacher. This group doesn’t always need to be teachers, but I can tell you that no one is really going to understand what is happening in the classroom than another teacher. 
4. Personal Day. In extreme situations I have taken a personal health day. I know that it is something that can be hard for teachers, because it is typically harder to be gone than show up for school but if I am seriously struggling with my work/life balance I have to take care of myself. If I don’t make an attempt to take care of myself then I struggle even more in the classroom. When I do take a personal health day, what normally happens is a complete day of nothing. I do the things I never have time for that only focus on me. I have found that this helps me center myself and then I can properly address any specific issues I am having in the classroom and the balance of my work and personal life. 

I have been teaching 10 years and the process of taking care of myself so that I can be the best I possibly can be at my job is something I am continuously working on. I don’t know anyone that is perfect at finding a balance between being a good teacher and being a person. It is something that I will continue to strive for. So far doing some combination of the things above have helped me come back year after year to teaching and allow me to gives kids a fresh start every week. I don’t wish any of these rough weeks on anyone, but the reality is that we all have them and it is nice to have a plan of attack for those days, weeks, months, or years. Hopefully some of these strategies are helpful to you when you go through those times, too. And for me, writing about all of it was one more release! 

What ways do you intentionally de-stress after a long week? I am open to any suggestions! 
I hope you have a fantastic week! And if you don’t, try a few of these steps and don’t forget that you get a fresh start next week. 
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